Truth is, we live in a culture (western culture) that says overindulging is ok.
If our plate isn’t full at a restaurant, their proportions are terrible. Being “madly” and “insanely” in love with a bit of drama is “normal” as opposed to a relationship that doesn’t drive you insane cues Trey Songz “Heart Attack”.
Work? We are one of, if not THE, hardest working country in the world (in terms of how many hours we spend at work). Theres overindulgence in drinking “The best nights are the ones you can’t remember with the one’s you can’t forget”, television (Oh how we love to watch people blow money and look fabulous doing it), social media(Oh, not you? Then it’s most DEFINITELY you.. denial is the first stage 😉 Really the list could go on and on.
By the end of the day, we’re exhausted from overindulging in our many little guilty pleasures and are left with guilt and efforts to get rid of the guilt. We do this by binge dieting, signing up for random memberships to the gym we end up not using etc., Ultimately we are left without the energy necessary to simply enjoy life, to enjoy others, or to enjoy ourselves in our own skin.
With all of that said, it’s time we focus on the positive and how we can change our overindulging habits.
Below are some ways we can stop our overindulging habits before it even occures and some options of what to do instead! The most common categories requested were: love, overeating, social media, and over spending.
“Even when I’m dead, I’ll swim through the Earth,
like a mermaid of the soil, just to be next to your bones.”
― Jeffrey McDaniel
Romantic or creeepy?? lol
Wait, am I allowed to say “lol” in a blog post? I really did “lol”?
Hmm, let’s just go with it.
“I have little left in myself — I must have you. My very soul demands you: it will be satisfied, or it will take deadly vengeance on its frame.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre
Based on what the girls said:
“The best way to avoid overindulging in your spouse, children, or friends is to wake up! And to start indulging a bit in yourself”
Now, that doesn’t mean overindulge in yourself, but simply enjoy the pleasure of being with yourself. Not yourself with your spouse, children, friends, or family, but time with JUST you and God himself.
You may not realize it, but you’re probably overindulging in someone else in order to fill a void within yourself.
Many of the girls agreed that it can be awkward being alone in a public place, especially where couples go. You think what will people think if I’m at a restaurant myself, what will I do? Twiddle my thumbs, pretend to check me email, talk on the phone the entire time? Or why take a trip if you cant take it with your favorite person, your best friend?
I can tell you first hand, I went through those same thoughts. But like any other relationship that’s meant to be, after the first awkwardly cute first few dates, you just may find out who you really are. Hopefully you will find hanging out with yourself to be quite enjoyable no matter who’s around!
I’m at the point where going to the movies by myself is a treat, and taking a trip for no other reason than to spend time with myself is a dream!!
Spending time by ourselves allows us to think for ourselves, discover what we think is entertaining without subconsciously taking in the opinion of some else and to see the world more of how it is than how we think it should be.
You can make your “ME time” your little adventure; discovering more about yourself and the town you’re in. Even the most familiar places look different when you are in them alone.
And once you take the time to reflect, grow, and pray on the person you are, you will be so content with who you are and what you have to offer that you will be too busy and happy to overindulge in someone else’s life. Void be gone!
How can we say we’re on this mission to become “The Ultimate Me” if we are not taking anytime to KNOW who we really are.
Then you will be able to make beautiful memories with the people you love as opposed to sucking the life out of them in order to fill up your own.
You will be a great friend, because you’re not so busy sucking the life out of the people that care about you with your own doubts and insecurities.
When you do, take a picture, send it in and tell us all about it so we can share it on our site to inspire others!! 🙂
“We have it in our head that if we fill our stomachs, we’ll fill our hearts.”
― Kate Wicker
“It doesn’t have to be about sacrificing all the things you love. Just be conscious of portion size and why you’re eating.”- Jordin Sparks
Ahhh, something I personally struggle with and therefore do not have ANY advice to offer. Thankfully the other girls DO have advice
“Like anything else, healthy proportions are needed. You can have your cake and eat it too, but just let it actually be ONE SERVING of the cake instead of the entire cake.”
As Lisa says on Shape.com “We have been genetically engineered to crave high-calorie, high-fat foods (that we used to need for energy—hunting, gathering, exploring the continent, etc), and now we’ve created food that tastes even better than nature’s”
So the feeling is normal!
“Stop beating yourself up for your overindulgence! Focus on the positive and getting yourself back on track. The next thing to do is to relax and reset your healthy course. Come up with a smart plan for losing the weight you’ve gained from the overindulgence, instead of punishing yourself by restricting or omitting meals and overexercising”-DrSugar or fitsugar.com
3. Social Media
Finding that you went on facebook to pull up a picture and the next time you look at the clock
2 hours have gone by and you forgot to get the pcituer you came for?
OR are you finding yourself randomly clicking on your “instagram” and “twitter” apps out of habit, but not actually because your interested in knowing every single highlight ofsomeone’sday and life?
Want to break the habit??
WELLLL how to break the social media overindulgence article will be here before Fall 2013 😀 It’s going to be so good, that it will have an entire article to itself. After speaking with the girls I’ve spoken to, I’ve realized it deserves a special feature of its own! CHECK BACK!
*create your own amazing quote because I cant find one :)!
Here are a list of a few things that helped me and the girls that contributed to this post.
- Stop living in denial: Just because you can swipe it and not see the dollars actually go down doesn’t mean they are not going down. What helps me is if I write down (or type in my phone) every single purchase. That way I
can see that a “little” $3 coffee every morning really adds up at the end of the month.
- Practice self retraint: don’t talk yourself into buying puchases. Put the shirt DOWN. Instead with that new list of
purchases, think of how that purchase could have gone to something else. Like debt, your community, or even your family.
- Budget, budget, budget: Who cares what so and so had on in their most recent IG posts. You may feel that you absolutely have to have it, but does it fit into your budge for the month? Because pf the purchase list you’ve created, budgeting should be a lot easier. Budget a vertain amount of money to things you “want” and dont need and fix your “I want it now” appetite. Most importantly, stop comparing what you have and don’t have with someone else. You have no idea what’s really happening in their life, so why compare it with yours?
Wishing you the best during this week of discipline and in the remainder of our 30 Days of fitness!
Stay Polished Pistil!
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